Anonymous asked: i just broke up with my bf whom i have been thr alot with. i always knew he's the one. no matter how many times he broke my heart. this time, he claims he doesnt have the energy for a LDR. but i cant seem to let go. it hurts too much. i went back to cutting myself. teach me what to do.
Never resort to physical pain! It may seem the only way or easiest or fastest way to mask your heartache, but it’s merely all an illusion as it is temporary replacement! Your pain won’t go away!
It’s saddening to hear that BUT always remember a new door will only open if you let yourself go forward and move on and closed the old one! Seek solace in your loved ones and friends! Stay strong!!
Remember that you deserve better!! :)@4 months ago with 2 notes
”Life is never easy for those who dream.”
- Robert James Waller
How true is this quote? 2013 has been nothing but a dream. With that it is anything but easy!
The truth is life’s not fair. We are given so many obstacles that sometimes it seems like we can’t handle them anymore. Even if we can, it was too much drama for us to even want to handle them. We just want them to end. 2013 taught me many - the good and the bad!
GRIEF & LOSS
There is no easy way to get rid of grief & loss! In fact, I don’t think there is even a way to get rid of it! I lost my grandmother in the most untimely of time! For the first time, I ever felt such sorrow, grief and heartache. It feels as though life has been sucked out of me at that moment! Knowing my grandmother is at the brink of dying and I have to get onto the stage to perform was possibly the hardest thing I had ever done in my entire life! Flashes of images of her lying on the bed suffering while I am on stage trying my best to be there for my crew and the audience validates the point that we are usually stronger than we think we are.
DREAM & FAITH
Have Faith in your dreams. If you work hard on them enough, they will come true. Your dreams are what you live for. As long as they are alive, there is something worth fighting for. Have faith that you can do what you want to do, and be who you want to be. Have faith that you can go where you want to go. As long as there is a dream you kept alive in your heart, there is always something to look forward to in life.
2013 was a year of opportunities for me. With Urban Dance Camp and Greek Salad Dance Camp! And travelling to even more countries to teach and share dance has been such a blessing! I dont take such blessings lightly! I appreciate every opportunity I had. To see that amount of love and support from people all over the world wherever I go is an indescribable emotion!
Trust in yourself. Trust that you are stronger than you think. There was a time in my life when I thought everything overwhelmed me. I had to be strong, not only for myself, but for others too: those whom I love and care about. Taking on all that made me think that I will collapse, that I will break. But I didn’t. The truth is, we never give ourselves enough credit. If only we trust in ourselves, we realize that we can take on more of the world than we’ll ever know.
Love is all around you if you just care to notice. The truth is, there is always at least one person who will love you all throughout your lifetime - Family, Friends, etc. There may even be a stranger loving you from afar without your knowledge.
2013 also taught me the first step in love is to acknowledge that you deserve to be loved. Love comes at the most unexpected time and circumstances! There is no logic behind it. When it hits you, you’ll probably be the happiest person on Earth.
In truth, 2013 has been a good year! But I am so looking forward to what 2014 has in stores for me regardless of it being good or bad. Because now even when I think life is too tough for me to handle, I just need to remind myself to have faith. Have trust. Have love.
And I will make it through.
Wishing everyone a happy new year and a blessed 2014 with many exciting adventures! :)
Lots of Love,
Ask anyone who knows me, they will probably tell you I am the last person who will be vocal when it comes to love! Some of them might even tell you I probably don’t believe in love or that I don’t think much about it. Or that I probably think I don’t need love in my life. I don’t blame them because sometimes I do come across as such a person. But only a fool would take it seriously because everybody NEEDS & WANTS love even if he/she doesn’t look it.
I think this 4 letter word somehow has been constantly floating around me over the past couple of months. Or a re-watching of “Perks of being a Wallflower” triggered it esp that famous scene in which shared by Sam and Charlie!
Sam: ”Why do I and everyone I love pick people who treat us like we’re nothing?”
Charlie: ”We accept the love we think we deserve.”
I may not fully agree with that sentence! But it makes me realize one thing! Sometimes we really do accept the negatives more readily than the positives.
So lets analyze: Why is it that sometimes when someone tells us that we’re terrible or ugly, instead of telling them they’re wrong and running in the opposite direction, we sometimes say “I know” and accepts it. BUT when someone tells us we’re wonderful, we try and convince them otherwise. It makes no sense but I do it sometimes. In fact most of us do. If someone is treating me like gold I question it. I get nervous and think that something must be wrong with them. I never really think that they’re treating me so great because it’s how I deserve to be treated. But if someone treats me like, for failure to find a better suited word, shit, I accept it with little to no question.
All I want to say is know that we all deserve better. I personally don’t believe anyone deserves to be treated or made to believe that they aren’t worthy of proper treatment. And although no one wants to be treated badly or wants to see others treated badly, we still at times accept less than we deserve? I’m still trying to figure it out. Maybe it comes with age and maturity. I don’t know. But I do know that the first step in overcoming anything is to recognize what it is and decide to change it.
So know that you deserve good love; not just in romantic relationships but in platonic ones as well. Because after all, we are infinite and we get to choose where we go from here.
Start with: “I Deserve Better!”@4 months ago with 3 notes